v. 1. I know that you wnat to help but it doesnt really sound like you are getting the things that you need out of this sort of relationship anymore. Everything i could say would create a problem and everything was my fault. "Unhealthy relationships can literally make you feel drained of energy. Good Luck Everyone. Ive been with my girlfriend for ten years, starting in college. Warm regards, I stopped seing my friends, I stopped trying to go out, everything was scaring me, literally, I was afraid that a plane will fall down on my home while I was sleeping, all the insane scenarios. My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down Wellbeing Medicines Pregnancy & Parenting Conditions Follow Ask the expert My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down I am living. Im in a similar situation & it is making me crumble emotionally. Dragged Down. If I go out without my phone I will find I have around 20-30 messages when I get back all telling me how selfish I am for ignoring her. Exactly. There has to be solutions. My partner has depression and anxiety and this year everything on his side of life started crumbling; family, job, friends, self-esteem, personal projects. Well i have a very depressed girlfriend that i am dating at this moment which i do really love her which she is always unhappy when i go over her house. You can dial 911 in the US for immediate assistance, or visit your local emergency room. I dont know how much you have tried already, but why not try it? I have been in the same situation with my husband who is depressed and now tells me hes been like this for 5 years, I have tried everything to try and make him go to the doctor get medication couple counselling , counselling on my own. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. She thinks I must be sleeping with someone else & she is not the object of my desire. Take it as a hint that things need to change. "Relationships characterized by constant conflict, fighting, and lack of forgiveness are a recipe for disaster," Opperman says. Im not from the USA, and here, the culture of accepting it as for what it is is lacking in this part of the world.My bf of almost 8 years rolls his eyes, when the other me is present. (All is Hell) I tried the whole counselling route n psychiatrist with her. its comforting to know that other couples go through the same things. She wont go to counselling nor will she take medication, she hurts herself knowing that it hurts me because it means iv failed once again to make her happy. Be found at the exact moment they are searching. I lost my faith in myself, in my abilities, in my attractiveness, I also lost my job because I was physically sick because of stress. Trying to fix it on yours own either no optional. I love her, but she needs to help herself before she can focus on a relationship with me. Uffo , I feel like I dont want anything in my life. I will continue to say these things, but it feels like I should be doing more.). That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. Im more bummed cause were not having as much sex as Id like. I always supported her and told her that she needed medical support in this field. My advice to anyone going through this with a depressed person is just call it off and move on. My sleep have been deprived for over 6 months. I have a problem and cant find anyone to tell Found that website and the posts here are very similar to mine. She had many great traits and was amazing in some areas of the relationship which made it hard to think about ending the relationship when I thought I was getting so much out of it. My partner's negativity gets me down A happy, optimistic man is brought down by the relentless negativity of his partner. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost two years. Try thinking back to those in hard times (or look at the older texts again like you do, I do that too haha). You couldnt survive being a total mess a hundred years ago and My girlfriend has been depressed for 3 years. She is loyal and would care for me no matter what but I cant keep bringing my own life down too to be on her level. I always stopped everything to help her, to stay hours remind her how she is incredible. I do everything I can to help her, but I feel like I'm just propping her up, and despite the medications she's taking she doesn't seem to ever improve. She keeps saying this like Im not a good person & I dont think Ill ever stop feeling this way I have given her reassurance, saying Im here for it through the good and bad, but fuck it seems like Im talking to a brick wall sometimes. They take all the goodness from you and leave you with nothing but sadness and depression. Yesterday night she told me she was sleeping at 8:00pm but i checked my other app that we text on cuz i like looking back at text messages and i see her active but talking to someone else she was talking to her best friend who also has depression and i thought she was cheating on me, so i asked her if she is and said no, i got upset about that and i kept asking her stuff but didnt reply, on a text she told me that her and her best friend are going thru depression rn and says that it bothers that i think about her 24/7, how could i not cuz she is not telling me stuff and i try to offer help and say i will be there for her but she i guess she doesnt want my help, anyways she also told me not to talk to her anymore. Maybe she doesnt want to tell you how much she wants you to be with her because she doesnt want to appear needy. Here are 10 who are holding you down. If you haven't been feeling like yourself lately, your romance may be to blame. Yes, we all need help and support and Im in it til death do we part. I hear your talking and whispers, pale drawn out nails and fingers. If you think youre a piece of poop, youre going to think others think that way too. Shes gone to therapy, but currently not going. I do not see a future with her but I get so torn up at the thought of leaving her to her depression and her situation, Im in the exact same situation as you gaz. However when i asked her how shed feel if i was to hang out with other girls she said that i wasnt allowed to and that all i would do is want to have sex with them or at least have those intentions. Youre so much less experienced and you know so much less than you think, Im not saying that as a criticism at all, Im sure youve been through more than I can imagine, but people have gone through this before and somehow got passed it to live their life for decades and decades. 11 months ago I started dating my girlfriend and everything was amazing. The reason I feel it's dragging me down is that my girlfriend's mother has always been extremely disrespectful to me. How do I approach the situation without hurting her feelings/making her feel bad? Compatibility Mechanical: 64 Bit (x64) Remember the love bit. I can know no one would have got solution. WE ARE ALL A PRODUCT OF OUR ENVIRONMENTS. We have to get our sh#t together or be ok with being alone and broke or God forbid settle for the girl were all here talking about. Shes fixates and ruminates on her health on a daily basis, and connects every ache and pain as a reflection of her perceived inability and shame around not taking care of herself, and thinks she cant trust her own mind. Trying to be a significant other when your partner has depression, anorexia, bulimia, addictions etc feels absolutely terrifying. When I asked her if she wanted to go get some food, ice cream the mall,she said no for so many reasons. Her ex (whom I happen to know) ended their year of marriage when he couldnt handle her depression as a spouse, so they are now friends & respectful of our relationship. So even if you don't initially make the connection, your relationship could be why you're always up at night. All efforts made on my part were in vain. Sorry to say this but its just my own opinion. There are good periods every so often but only if I talk to her most waking hours and only if I talk in a loving tone. Tomorrow my lady and I would be ten months not quite a year, but things have switched off lately. Being long-distance, you are actually BETTER OFF than if you were local! 2. Relationships are supposed to be about equality. I am not an expert in the world of women but if there is anything I have learned it is that women feel a whole range of emotions and only show/tell a few (or none). Start praying to God, together with your girlfriend. To go cold turkey off 3 different anti depressants can someone die by doing that? I can know no one would have got solution. To lower the quality, character, or value of something or someone: His disruptions are dragging down the performance of the other students. Dear Armand, THIS MORNING WITH ALL YOUR WEIGHT TIED TO MY NECK AND YOUR DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN I GOT . I dont want to get to the point of carer for her or to resent her because of her condition. Dont worry too much about your girlfriend saying that you shouldnt talk to her anymore. Its dragging me down and she wont listen to me and wouldnt want to change her way of thinking for herself or anyone, I hate to say this but I realized she is actually very stubborn and selfish. Can still manage to go to pool every Tuesday night til 2am. She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants me to be around my arms! Slowly Im staying more time at home. I want so much to help her, but I feel like I have nothing else to give. (Cue that sad trombone. Good luck! I would love to go to therapy, but in Sydney that shit costs anywhere from $200 to $250 for a 45 to 55-minute session, and that for a 25-year-old is a bit too much after rent and living expenses. I have been with my girlfriend long distance for over a year now. Your girlfriend should know that she has the right to be an active participant in her treatment plan and to discuss changes to this plan with her clinicians. You need to ask is that what you want for the rest of your life. Setup Type: Offline Installer / Full Standalone Setup. But how is it possible? I missed her, but she pushed me away and i got fed up from this. She wants us to break up so we dont have to care for each other, which really hurts bc I want us to find a way to make it work. I have good days and bad days. And one last thing, she really wants to be again successful, beautiful, smart, witty, and attractive for you more than anything else. There is so many thoughts and circumstances for a girl. And if an argument crops up, it almost always goes smoothly (i.e., no screaming, or blaming, or anything horrible like that). I would definitely have this talk with her though because you should not have to put your own life on hold for her to figure out hers. SO IF YOU HANG AROUND PEOPLE LIKE THIS YOU WILL TAKE ON THEIR THINKING AND HABITS MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. Theres a lot of pain in watching someone else you love give up on their own life, be unhappy about decisions they made and wonder why the relationship is falling apart when theyve manipulated your emotions by hurting u, breaking up with you so many times and not having anything positive to say on any problem you or they have,together or singularly. I'm just not the same. Kind regards, The GoodTherapy Team, Im going through a similar thing, Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, shes been through childhood trauma, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, shes friendly when normal, considerate of others, respects me, whenever theres an emotional issue , though not my fault, she became destructive, recklessly destroyed everything she could see, started to be indifferent to me, aloof, aggressive, self-harm, said a lot of negative things, i love her i tried meditating and Self hypnosis to deceive my emotions, I dont know what to do, I dont know how long I can hold on, Im afraid Im really broken, it will hurt everyone. You're looking older but you can't be certain. I told her to leave him if he keeps bring her down. Thank you for sharing. Long distance relationships where you rarely/never meet in person are not really the same thing. Smoking and drinking! Shawna Potter) Jim Ward. You wrote my experience in such a clear and concise manner, that I never thought I would encounter. "So, yes, your relationship problems could lead you to suffering from high blood pressure." One day she wanted to elope Bcos she feared the crowd at our wedding and the next day she just broke it off completely with no reasons. Now she stopped the medications for a month ago, and still no affection what so ever. Its a selfish decision either way. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants to be around my arms! Please keep in mind that GoodTherapy.org is an exclusive directory. I consider myself in recovery. This then gives my anxiety about getting erectile dysfunction. Dude, Im the one whos always giving the support and its draining me and she doesnt appreciate it at all and said she cant feel our love anymore. And at the current time, I feel stretched thin with everything going around me since everyone needs me there for them, along with being there for myself. We started dating and since after 2 months shes been depressed. It's an affect that's truly worth noting. Because of my own childhood, and my moms depression as a kid, I reflexively push her away when she gets very depressed, and have trouble acknowledging what shes going through. ), it can really start to drag you down. Ad by TruthFinder Have you ever googled yourself? First two years went well. This often happens when too much stress causes hyperarousal, which can upset the balance between sleep and wakefulness, according to the National Sleep Foundation. Hey, lately iv been feeling more and more distant from my gf. If signs point to your partner, it's time to make a change. 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